Friday, May 14, 2010

Thodasa roomani ho jaye!!!

We lead our lives interspersed with incidents, which inspire, influence and finally motivate us to carry on living. Hope of better things define and stimulate our actions. Thus it is extremely difficult for me to imagine our life without hope, without anything to look forward to. However when we look around we can see people (far and near) leading lives without any anticipation or hope. The reality of their situation forces us to understand the importance of hope, which has this uncanny ability to refresh parched and arid human minds.
To har insan ko is, 'thodese' roomani ki 'bahot' jyada jaroorat hoti hai... which in english is called 'A little faith' which keeps us going. It might seem a bit too philosophical, but I dont want you to be bored by giving doses of philosphy, instead I will tell u a real life story of a girl, whose life changed drastically due to a change in her perception towards life.
This story is about how a few people at various stages in her life whom she calls 'Angels of my life' transformed her life completely by teaching her the magic of 'believing' or 'keeping faith'.
Because, we all know 'We believe what we percieve' and which ultimately leads to our success or failure.So, here it goes...

There was a girl who lived with her parents, granny and an elder sister in a city.They were a happy family.

Phase I :Childhood :

At the initial stage of her kindergarten and then later school education,she stayed with her parents.They were a happy family and loved each other a lot.
She led a life of the most successful student, always a topper and never faced any difficulties.But then suddenly after her schooling, her father decided to keep her away from them for providing her a better quality higher education. So, at the age of 15, she had to stay away from her parents.Her elder sister had already left the house two yrs before when she was 15 and now she was going to stay with her elder sister.

Phase II : Adolescence:

Now, in this phase of her life started the real challenge. Throughout her schooling, she had been a topper, so she had the confidence that she would top in her higher studies as well. But when she saw her first semester results at higher education,she was petrified. She was no where amongst the toppers, instead had got very average marks.
This was her first failure ever, due to which she was completly depressed.And now even her mom was not there physically with her to help her.But then
she couldn’t find the reason for it bcoz I had worked really hard even for this exam. Then what was the factor responsible for her failure?? The only reason which made the whole difference was she was away from her mom. Then she realised, it was her mom who always motivated her and taught her to believe that she only would be the topper. Along with hardwork, this motivation and belief her mom sowed in her,made a hell lot of difference.
But unfortunately, she couldn’t bring her mom to the place she lived. But fortunately, she had her elder sister who also stayed with her. She took the place of her mom in this next phase of her life. She motivated her little sis and helped her overcome her emotional dependencies and other limitations.She helped her to convert her failures into success and improved her results to an extent that her little sis could get admission amongst top 10 engineering colleges.From here, her perception towards life began to change and she started understanding her own limitations and strengths.Her perception towards life started changing a bit.But then again, a huge failure was awaiting her...

Phase III :
Teenage+ Adulthood:

Now the start of next phase was even more worst, her family members (except mom and sis) and relatives dint have a confidence that she had the ability to complete engineering successfully. So, they tried admitting her in a course she never liked by advising her mom to do so.If her mom and sis dint support her, she wouldnt have been an engineer today.
But then, fortunately she got an admission call from one of top 10 colleges of the University.Now was the biggest challenge to prove to my relatives that she could do it.But again as luck would have it or whatever reasons, she faced so many failures in her subjects that her relatives got a chance to say 'We knew you can never become an Engineer'. This sentence totally grappled her confidence away.
Lack of confidence and belief was the greatest barrier to her success.
Then again, god sent her an angel, she says, who guided her on the right track. He saved her from falling down in the deep valley of disbelief .He helped her build up her confidence again and helped her grow.This angel was none other than her best friend, her brother, my well-wisher and now her brother-in-law . He tranformed her perception towards life even more in a more positive way.He taught her self-analysis, helped her to realize her strengths and make them more stronger and helped her overcome weaknesses and convert them into strengths.

These three angels of her life: Her Mother, Sister and Brother-in-law have helped her build up so much of inner strength that she can now look at her failures in a completely different way.They have inculcated in her the magic of believing so deep that she now faces her failures with this "thodasa roomani."


  1. Chhann kadambari aahe kale kaku :D

    Nice article.. good autobiography.. get to know u better :)

  2. gr8!! Richi.. mala pan saglya goshti mahit navtya...
    such a strong person u are... love u.. take care...
    bhari lihila ahes..

  3. @Online Nemesis:Thanks :)

    @Devika: Love you too dear..a lott :)

  4. kya baat hai charu akka..too good!!
    English pharach jabra ahe tumcha..
    And you are so deep a thinker..!!
    Miss you little sis..
    Good job.keep going!!

  5. I always wonder - How does God know that a troubled soul needs a 'thodasa roomani' and how does he send angels to give her the same. May be it is too big of a thought to understand. God is obviously very Powerful.
    But what makes me wonder even more is - When the troubled soul who needed angels to recover from her troubles - becomes 'an inspiration' herself. May be it is too big of a thought to understand because "A motivated (person) Her" is really Powerful.
    That's when I start believing in what my Father always says: You always have a ray of hope inside you. But you sure need some angels to make you realize that. But once you are enlightened about yourself - you can be a true inspiration to anyone.
    May be - It's time for you Richa - to realize that God took you through this process because He wanted you to be 'an angel' to many other troubled souls.

    Good Luck !!!

  6. very well composed richa. your writing skills are simply superb. - Vishal